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A Word to the Wise

Most of you probably know that before I got together with hubby, I was engaged to another guy. Shock Horror!!

I’ve not seen or spoken to him since. I have no wish to. I have no interest in what he does. He’s a part of my life that is in the past and that I don’t miss. Most people would understand that.

So imagine how I felt when a few weeks ago, a “friend” of mine saw some people that we both knew. I was fiends with both of them before I got together with my ex, but now they don’t speak to me – nothing like listening to both points of view. After she saw them, she was telling me all about my ex. About the fact he now has a son and that he’s lost his sight (he was blind in one eye anyway). That made me feel weird because I wasn’t sure how I should have felt. Yes it’s a shame, but I don’t feel sorry for him. I don’t want to contact him and send him my sympathies. If it wasn’t for her sticking her oar in, I wouldn’t have even known.

I told her at that point that I didn’t really care what he was doing with his life. Then yesterday, I got this email from her:

“Went to a party at Jane’s* mums on Sunday evening which was nice, got to meet quite a few people I’d not met before and got to see a few I hadn’t seen in a long time. Saw Joe* there too, met his wife and baby….he is gaining some sight back too apparently which is good news for him. His son is gorgeous, so cute and his wife is really pretty, just not what I was expecting at all”

Am I the only one who thinks that is totally out of order, inappropriate and insensitive? My response to her was this:

“Yeah funny, she looks exactly like her sister (she and her sister are identical twins and the other twin is married to his brother – weird). To be honest, I’m not really interested in anything to do with him. He’s a part of my life that’s in the past and that I don’t miss. I don’t want to know what he’s doing and I don’t want him and his family to know what I’m doing coz it’s none of their business. So as long as he and they weren’t asking, all is well with the world.”

Her reply:

“She doesn’t now; her sister has filled out a bit so they do look a little different. No, they didn’t mention you, I don’t suppose they would make the connection anyway, Joe* possibly would but he didn’t seem to register it. “

So even after I’ve told her I don’t care, she tells me that the twins don’t look like each other anyway. I just told her again that I didn’t care and she dropped it.

What she seems to forget is that if she is talking about people behind their backs, they are most likely talking about her behind hers. If I ever find out she has been talking about me, and stuff about what I’m doing, where I’m doing it, and who I’m doing it with gets out to my ex, well that’s it, I’ll never have anything to do with her again.

She wants to be careful, otherwise the truth about what really happened to the baby she “miscarried” might find its way out.


*Names have been changed to protect the identities of those that don’t really deserve it


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Brain Fart

Hubby, MBM and I went out to dinner tonight. YUM!! It was SOOOO nice.

Anyway, when we got home, we looked at the moon and saw that the eclipse was happening.

Now MBM is a very intelligent bloke. Brain like a box room in fact. Knows everything about everything, uses big poncy words that we don’t know they meaning of, etc. So hubby and I looked at each other in disbelief when MBM said in all seriousness:

“So, is that Mars covering the moon then?”.

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I actually got to spend some time with hubby this weekend. He’s been working late lots recently, in fact, I’m waiting for him to come home now, the enchilada’s are waiting to go in the oven! He was working until about midnight on Friday and he worked some of Saturday morning. I’ve joked with him saying that me and some of the other wives should make a club and call it “The *Company Name* Widows”.

Anyhow, this weekend MBM came to stay. So we bored him with kitchen stuff and dragged him along to some kitchen appointments. And we think, that we MAY have found our new kitchen. Going to get one or two more quotes just to make sure, but I’d happily go with the one we saw on Sunday.

The weirdest thing happened yesterday. I got a text message that Andie sent me on New Years Eve. Yep, nearly two months after she sent it!!

We’ve sold one of the cars. We don’t need two. Not when I’m getting the train everyday and hubby is mostly(!) working from home. So it’s goodbye to my little baby. My Ka. We’ve still got it at the mo, and although it was a mutual decision to sell him, I’m going to be heartbroken to see him go. Buying him was a bit of a milestone for me, it marked the end of something bad and the beginning of the rest of my life. I know it’s just a car, but I will miss him. However, in return, I get a shiny new kitchen. Let’s just hope I make it through my six month probation otherwise we’ll have to go out and buy another car.

I have Thursday and Friday off this week. On Thursday evening, hubby, MBM and I are going to Wembley to see Keane. Work has been so mad the last week or so, I’ll be glad of the time off to relax and sleep.  Is it just me, or does anyone else find that on a Sunday night they don’t sleep as well as they do any other night? No? Just me?

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All of those weeks and months of preparation. Making sure you’ve bought the right presents, making sure you’ve wrapped the presents, making sure you’ve got enough food, making sure the house is tidy. Then it’s all over in one day.

That being said, it was a fantastic day.

We were up at about 9am and had freshly baked croissants with butter and jam for breakfast. Then we sat and opened our presents.

Now, bear in mind that this Christmas was only my second “proper” Christmas. I was brought up in a family that didn’t celebrate Christmas and that’s why this one was such a big deal to me.

We sat and opened our presents, and I think we all did pretty well. I can now tell you what my fab idea for MBM was. It was some juggling clubs!!

When hubby opened his big present from me, the look on his face was brilliant. It was a cross between excitement and fear. The look of fear kicked in after I gave him the knee and elbow pads. I’d bought him a 3m power kite and a land board so he can go kite boarding. I also got him a game for the Xbox, some t-shirts, a book, a comic, a cd and a desk calendar.

I was obviously a very good girl this year as I got loads of stuff from Santa.

I got: From Hubby

  • an iPod nano
  • some pink and brown converse
  • a mug from Starbucks
  • a leather handbag
  • a shirt from gap
  • some chocolates

 From MBM

  • a Jack Vettriano calendar
  • Desperate Housewives Season 2 box set
  • A Chris Moyles Book
  • Cocktail Glasses
  • Cocktail recipe book
  • Cocktail shaker
  • Alcohol to make cocktails

Hubby and I got some joints presents off his parents and grandparents, such as kitchen stuff, duvet cover, photo frames (which now proudly display some wedding pictures) and a fantastic clock which is now in our kitchen!

I also got some Ghost perfume, a leather case for my iPod and a glitzy compact mirror to go in my handbag.

The most stressful part of the day was cooking the dinner. Although, hubby said I looked quite calm and collected. I think that was down to the endless supply of cocktails!!

The meat took longer to cook than expected and our oven isn’t big enough to fit all the food in (note – my next house needs to have a range cooker if I’m going to be hosting Christmas) so we didn’t actually eat until 17.30.  I cooked too much, but who doesn’t? Hubby, MBM and myself were the only ones who finished dinner!

After dinner we all sat and played with our new presents for a while. Hubby was like a big kid, sat on the floor building Slave 1 out of Lego. That was his big pressie off’ve MBM.

We then played Monopoly until the early hours and everybody got made bankrupt by my father-in-law! A family tradition, I’m led to believe! A good day had by all I think. Roll on next year!! 

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So, Rhyl.

I don’t really know where to star or how much you’ll be interested to know.

We got there and pretty much got ready straight away

Girls with attitude

We then went to the bar while we were waiting for our taxi

In the bar

We got into town and realised the people of Rhyl had no dress sense

Red DressRed Dress

But I think we looked OK


If a little mashed


So that was Friday pretty much. There was much alcohol, a fight (not involving us) which resulted in me being drenched in beer and covered in broken glass, lots of sleazy men who didn’t understand no and a drunken idea of what we should do to raise money for Children in Need which now, I am the only one still up for it.

Will post pics of Saturday soon.

Check back………

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Selfish, Ignorant Cow

For those of you that read my old blog, you may remember I had a so called “friend” named “Sarah”.

One again she doens’t fail to amaze me in her ignorance.

She is currently on holiday in Ibiza. I have seen her twice this year because she keeps backing out of stuff for pathetic excuses. She didn’t come on my hen night because she had a sore throat, and let me know over text message. She hasn’t seen me since I’ve come back from my destination wedding over 3 months ago. She organises things, she cancels them and lets me know over a text each and every time.

Bear in mind that me and the hubby have done a lot for her. And I mean a LOT. We helped her move house, we took her in at 4am when she had a run in with the ex. Hubby has looked after her child while she’s been out with me shopping or whatever.

Yet this morning, I check my emails and I have one from her in Ibiza. It was sent to both me and my best friend. And she addreses it “Hi Both”.

What I want to know is why the hell my husband wasn’t included in that greeting. I am so annoyed at that. We’ve both done a lot for her, yet she can’t even acknowledge him.

I can’t believe that I was ever stupid enough to class this person as a friend.

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Wanted : Friends

It’s not that we’re short of friends as such. We both have mates at work that we’re with all day. We have friends that we don’t see very often because of work schedules. We have my best friend who is now OUR friend. But that’s it really.

We both left school and didn’t really keep in touch with many people. And it’s hard when you’re our age just to go out and meet people. So how do we do it?

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